Monday, November 14, 2011

Selfless Mothering: Would you give up your piece of pie?

"A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie." Tenneva Jordan

As Christmas quickly approaches I’m finding the daunting task of giving out my “wish list.” What do I want for Christmas? This was not a difficult thing for me to do before I had children. In fact, someone could ask me at any given time what I wanted for my birthday or Christmas and I would instantly be able to list off a number of things. Now, when asked, I pause. I rack my brain for ideas but what do I come up with? Things for my kids.

Whether it’s a cute outfit for my five month old daughter, Lady Bug, or a fun imagination sparking toy for my three year old son, Buggie, I can honestly say that those gifts bring me more joy than the newest electronic device or pair of hot shoes (okay, I can’t wear heels any more now that my feet have changed after two pregnancies but who’s counting, right?). Maybe I’m simple and have grown to be less materialistic. Actually, unfortunately I don’t think that’s the case. I’d love to say that it was and that I’m this super awesome human who doesn’t need or want the worldly things others desire but that’s not true. I am normal. What I’m seeing that’s different though from the way it was is that the things that bring me joy have now changed.

My birthday is really no longer that important to me (except my 30th next year which I do plan on celebrating!). My kids’ birthdays? Now those are so important. Seeing Buggie all giddy as his little friends arrive for his party warms my heart. Dreaming up the lovely celebration we’ll have for Lady Bug’s first birthday in June makes my lips curl up into a small smile. Before I started caring for these two little bugs I never would’ve predicted the change in my attitude about what matters most in life.

I think I have, to a degree, become a little more selfless. I know that when I read the quote by Tenneva Jordan above, about giving up a piece of pie, I completely resonated with it. I thought to myself, Yeah, I never did like pie either. 

What about you? Would you be willing to give up your piece of pie?

Elizabeth (aka Bert) Anderson married her college sweetheart in 2005, and started her journey into motherhood in 2008 with the birth of her son.  She started blogging in 2009 as a way to keep track of her thoughts on being a first time mom, especially her struggle with postpartum depression, and as a way of reaching out to other moms who are struggling with the same things.  This June, Bert had another first in her motherhood travels - a little girl!  Even though she's newly a mother of two, Bert maintains that no matter how many children you have you will always be a "first time mom" because there's a first time for everything!  Visit her blog, at FTM. Bert is a contributor for She Thinks Media.


Jill said...

I typically go for 'things I can really use, but won't buy for myself' because I'm spending my money on my kids and my husband (edit: my husband's income, as I stay at home, read as 'my' money).. so on my list this year are things like melamine spoons for the kitchen (as one of mine broke this summer), a queen sized mattress cover (our other one is 10 years old and we'd like to have one to rotate out so I'm not hurrying to wash it with 2 kids running around, and knee high socks (it gets cold here). shrug. My mom is the only one who buys for us anymore, and she generally either gets us what she wants us to have or what we ask for, so, typically we have to buy everything for ourselves. if she says she needs more ideas, I'm going to tell her flat out to buy stuff for the kids. I dont' care if it's 2 seasons out on deep discount, at least then I wont' have to buy it.

Jill said...

Did I mention if we don't have enough at our house, we just sit and share? Sometimes that's the best way.

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